Positive Self-Talk - written by Janet Terban Morris

One way to strengthen your core and build self-esteem is through positive self-talk. If you tell yourself you are a success, you will succeed. If you tell yourself you are a failure, you will definitely fail.

From the book "The Winners Edge," Dr. Dennis Waitley states, "The promise is the same for the inquisitive youth, the ambitious man or woman, the nurturing mother, whether Oriental or Occidental, black or white, Chicano or Indian, Islamic or Christian. As you see yourself in the heart of your thoughts, in your mindís eye, so you do become."

There is a law of physics that a positive and a negative cannot inhabit the same space at the same time. Fill your head with positive messages and images and there is no room for any negative thoughts.

We would never speak in negative, defeatist, destructive terms to a good friend. We would treat our friend with respect and kindness. We would listen to her and then build her up, giving her positive feedback and reinforcement. If she needed us, we would be there. If she started to fall into a negative rut, we would dispute her destructive dialogue. We would remain with her until we lifted her up from the depths of despair into the light of a positive path.

The key then is to learn to be our own best friend. To give ourselves the same respect we would give another. To stop beating ourselves up with incendiary rhetoric.


"I have to remember to tell the negative committee that meets in my head to sit down and shut up." -- Kathy Kendall